Hawaii Style Candle Unity Ceremony
The Hawaii Style Unity Ceremony adds a Hawaii flare to the traditional unity candle tradition. The unity candle ceremony is done to symbolize the joining of the wedding couple or the joining of their families. The Hawaiian style unity ceremony uses two separate taper candle sticks and one candle in a real coconut shell , bamboo or a tiki style table candle. Below are a few examples of what the wedding officiate can for the unity ceremony:
Today, (insert wedding couple's names) you are making a commitment of your eternal Aloha for one another. As you each hold your candle the two distinct flames represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you light the (coconut shell or bamboo) Unity candle together, your two flames join together as one and shine bright just as your lives are about to. May the brightness of the flame shine throughout your lives as well as give you courage and reassurance in your eternal Aloha for one another. We now extinguish the two separate flames as you are forever united as one in eternal Aloha.
Hawaii Style Sand Unity Ceremony
The Hawaii Style Sand Ceremony adds a Hawaii twist to the traditional unity candle tradition. A sand ceremony is ideal for those who's wedding is going to take place on a beach, boat, back yard or a windy location that unity candles will not stay lit or are unsafe. Like a unity candle the sand is used to symbolize the joining of the bride and groom or the joining of their families.
The sand unity ceremony uses two small vials of sand and small bowl to combine the sand. Each of the two vials of sand symbolizes the separate lives of the bride and groom and their families. If the wedding is being held on a beach the sand would be collected at the time of the ceremony and taken from below the bride and grooms feet. The combined sand makes a wonderful wedding keepsake for the bride and groom and a constant reminder of their Aloha for one another. If you are not located near a beach craft stores are the best source for natural and colored sand as well as small glass bottles. Another good resource for small bottles is Pier 1 Imports. You can also use a coconut shell to pour the unity sand into then use a bottle to store the combined sand as a keepsake.
Below are a few examples of what the wedding officiate can use for the sand unity ceremony:
Non-Denominational Unity Ceremony
Today, (insert wedding couple's names), you are making a commitment of your eternal aloha for one another. As you each hold your sand the separate containers of sand represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand together, your lives also join together as one.
Non-Denominational Unity Ceremony involving Children of the Wedding Couple
If the wedding couple have a child or children they can be included in the unity ceremony to symbolize the joining of the whole family with the marriage. The wedding couple and each child of the couple should have their own vile of sand.
Today, (insert wedding couple's names), you are making a commitment of your eternal aloha for one another as well as to your children (Name all Children). As you each hold your sand the separate containers of sand represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand together, your lives also join together as one, as a family.
Non-Denominational Unity Ceremony for the Parents to Join The Two Families
(Insert wedding couple's names) you come here today from two different families. From these two families a new family will be created today. At this time, I would invite the parents of (insert wedding couple's names) to come forward. These two vials of sand represent each family. Now the parents will take their sand and simultaneously pour the sand into the unity bowl symbolizing the uniting of the two families into one.
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